By Suni Bradford
Most of us, believers and non-believers, tend to go to God for help when painful issues such as marital, lost children, financial issues arise. Our fears that stem from not knowing how to handle these pains can sometimes put us into a numb, frozen state. We go searching for relief, peace and direction. We desperately need some help and may feel the need for others input when there seems to be no immediate answers from our Loving Counselor. If we are a non-believer this can be very lonely and non productive.
There are two directions we can choose. One being, God’s will in our lives and the other being self will. By trusting God at and through His word, we can feel the relief of knowing that He does have our best interest at heart. His word tells us over and over that He is in control. He has a perfect plan for us.
Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.”
We see such a small glimpse of our lives and in our humanness cannot see as He sees. The full picture is far more then we can ever imagine. We have so many scriptures to got to for peace.
Romans 8:18 “Consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. More is always revealed.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Romans 8:28 tells us, we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who] have been called according to his purpose. 29 For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son.
Secondly, we can operate in self-will. The need for instant answers can easily bring us more discomfort, anxiety and perhaps guilt for hasty decisions made or actions taken. By rushing to make these decisions because we feel guilt from someone else or lose of control is not a healthy emotional state. The result on our mental and physical wounds can show up in many forms such as isolation and illness. By looking to God for clarity in our motives we can take responsibility for our part and leave the rest to what it is. Keeping in mind that the only people we can control is ourselves. If financial hardship is the challenge and we are making efforts to change our circumstances, faith is our lifesaver.
A prayer that I rely upon is the serenity prayer. “God grant me serenity to accept the things cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference”. This is a simple rule but can be a challenge to live by.
Many challenges will come our way through our life, the Word tells us this and yet we continue to be taken back when they hit. As we learn to go to God in all things, the good, the bad and the ugly, we can begin to understand His amazing love for us. He wants to be our all. We were designed that way. We can choose to take advantage of the free gift. By practicing waiting on the Lord we can have a completely different view of these growing pains. We can grow to have more Christ like characteristics. In turn helping us to handle future challenges with more grace and perhaps helping another to do the same.
We sometimes think that God should deliver an immediate answer for tough decisions that we need to make. Especially when we are doing the right things, like prayer, meditation, time in the word and Godly counsel. His answer may simply be “be still and wait”.
I can picture Jesus sitting waiting for His hurt children to come sit on His lap and be soothed. As so many of us have done with our earthly parents, for example; when scuffing a knee or being bullied. He feels our hurts.
Live Brilliantly Today™
By Suni Bradford
This probably sounds like a strange concept but I have noticed the link between treating myself well and my connection with God.
In the past I would treat myself in the areas of food, which meant indulging in any and every yummy thing I wanted or by getting that extra hour or two to sleep rather than exercising and reading my Bible, thinking that I was enjoying life. My idea of “treating myself” was actually doing the opposite, inflicting harm to myself. After taking a good look at my habits, I now see how destructive they were. In looking at the effects they can have on our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well being, I’ve got a new outlook on living a clearer more satisfying life.
Spiritual well being
The emptiness we feel and try to fill with everything else in life can be replaced by peace and contentment through intimacy with Christ. We may not even know what is eating us, but we know something is missing. By remembering when I hear myself saying these things, either out loud or in my head, that the source of these lies are the enemy. God has a much better plan. Jeremiah 9:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.
Mental well being
The constant stream of negative thoughts, such as I can’t stop eating my ice cream, oh, I could never lose weight, I’ve never been one to keep up on any of my resolutions or goals. This is one of the enemy’s best tools for keeping us sidetracked and in pain. If he can keep us thinking we cannot change, he has done his job in destructing our self-esteem and self worth as well as distracting us from our relationship with God. By remembering our value. Genesis 1:26-27 tells us, “Our value comes from the fact that we are wonderfully made in the image of God”. One of my favorite reminders is Matthew 10:30
“And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Wow…. That pretty much clears it up”. He loves us.
Emotional well being
By identifying our feelings we can learn to control our urges that we are attempting to mask. Emotions can trigger cravings as we feel that they comfort us. As we develop a closer relationship with our loving God we are able to achieve more balance in the tough times as well as the good times. 1 John 2:16-17 “For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever”.
Physical well being
The damage we can do to our health by over eating and not moderating our eating of things that are unhealthy for our bodies such as high fat foods, imitation/ processed foods, a diet high in sugar as well as yo- yo dieting. Some of the effects may be headaches, irritability, fatigue, feeling like we are in fog all the time or worse yet, the stress on our hearts, arteries etc. 1 Corinthians 6: 19-20 “ Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body”. This also says to me the importance of exercise. Keeping our bodies strong and mobile is beneficial now and as we age.
The energy boost resulting from the increased intake of oxygen, the building of muscles as well as the mental clarity is worth the lost sleep. The confidence, a result of the discipline we develop, can help us to put out a positive energy to the people around us. They’ll wonder what got into you. Perhaps creating friendships and opportunity to share the love of Christ with them.
Accountability can be extremely helpful in the area of goal setting and encouragement. I encourage you to not do as I did in the beginning of my transitioning to a healthier life. I picked a pal that we would both say heck with exercise this morning, lets go have breakfast. However, we did work our biceps, right…
In believing that our lives can be more rewarding in all areas when the clutters of our previous patterns are cleared of negative aspects. Be renewed by Christ’s healing and forgiveness. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! 2 Corinthians 5:17
I pray this article will encourage the desire to change from unhealthy patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving into peace, joy and a newfound confidence that God has a plan for us to prosper in every area of this great life.
“I can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13).
Now, go share the love.
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